Bearing My Debilitating Cross With Joy

Hi, friends. When catching up with an old friend at a United Methodist event for Rise Against Hunger, my disability came up in conversation, and the friend said something like, “I’m really sorry you have to go through that.” I responded, “Sometimes, I think I’m too happy for a handicapped person.” We laughed about that, but I genuinely meant it.

Life isn’t a constant picnic for anyone. Some view humanity’s collective suffering with a bit of cynical humor–“Life’s a bitch, then you die.” Christians believe that God will somehow work out this messy world by the end, and whatever our struggles may be, the Lord will help us if we seek Him earnestly. [Note: His version of help might vary from our expectation.]

Heaven must receive him [Jesus] until the time comes for God to restore everything, as he promised long ago through his holy prophets. (Acts 3:21, NIV)

Ask, and it will be given you; search, and you will find; knock, and the door will be opened for you. For everyone who asks receives, and everyone who searches finds, and for everyone who knocks, the door will be opened. (Matthew 7:7-8, NRSV)

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My disability affects my every physical action, so people feel sorry for my situation. The people who pity me don’t know that “it is well with my soul.” I am sincerely happy with my life, despite the flaws. I have so many blessings to balance out the negative.

Every Christian (and person) has unique struggles. Some of you have shared them, and I admire the grace with which many of you bear your crosses.

Then Jesus told his disciples, “If any want to become my followers, let them deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.” (Matthew 16:24, NRSV)

Some of you have recovered from the loss of a spouse due to tragic death or unwanted but necessary divorce. Some of you have dealt with mental illness and even attempted suicide. Some of you have served jail time or lived on the streets. Some of you, like me, have chronic disabilities.

Sometimes, I wonder if “being in a wheelchair” will be the heaviest cross I bear in life…I keep thinking that, if so, I’ve cheated the system by feeling this joyful. To be fair, I do fear dying young in the back of my mind, but that’s due to my heart thickness, not my physical mobility.

After reflecting on how many of you have also found the silver lining to the rain cloud, I conclude that a spiritual life/perspective enables a person to find the silver lining of any rain cloud…or at least weather the storm until the sun shines again.

And not only that, but we also boast in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not disappoint us, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit that has been given to us. (Romans 5:3-5, NRSV)

Thanks for reading. God bless you! 

I’m starting a series soon about the different aspects of my disability that I deal with, so stay tuned, hehe.

This is a Christian pop/EDM song. The lyric I love the most is relevant to this post–“I choose JOY!”

35 responses to “Bearing My Debilitating Cross With Joy”

  1. What a beautiful perspective you have❤️

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  2. Wow, I love the perspective you’ve shared here. I’ve always felt uncomfortable with the way we tend to treat people with a disability, be it physical or mental. I think it’s definitely important to understand and respond to someone’s needs and how they have to interact with the world, but I’ve always hated pity. There are people with disabilities that have done incredible things for people many “able” people wouldn’t dream of doing. I love the story of John Nash for example, a brilliant mathematician who at one point in his life had to deal with debilitating schizophrenia until he learned how to cope with his symptoms and have a fulfilling life.

    I used to struggle with self-pity a lot myself, like with my insomnia and how it affected my ability to learn while I was going through it, but now I just go, “Whatever, no need to dwell on this little failure because God still loves me.”

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    1. Great perspective with your insomnia, Ada! We all have our crosses to bear, but trust in God changes how we grapple with our struggles. I also appreciate what you said about pity. You’re right that disabled people have accomplished great things! Pity can be degrading, but even more detrimental is self-pity, which is crippling on its own. We have to believe in ourselves the way God does!

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  3. I really enjoyed reading this post, and the video at the end was brilliant. God bless you.

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    1. Thanks, hun! God bless you 🙂

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  4. My beautiful Lily, i have said this many times and everyday i believe it more and more: YOU WILL CHANGE THE WAY THE WORLD VIEWS A ‘handicapped’ PERSON ! You are so smart, so strong, so outgoing, so fun; you DO NOT fit the stereotype. Just think of how many people have become more comfortable around a wheelchair because of you. Children always want to push you around; they don’t see ‘the chair’ as intimidating. And with one smile, one push, one sermon, one blog, one belly laugh… the world begins to change! 🙂

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    1. Thank you, Mom. I love you!

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  5. That’s a great idea for a series. It is hard when people do not understand. I’m glad for your positive insight.

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  6. Thank you for sharing. Prayed for the Lord to work through you my sister to reach people.

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    1. Glad you enjoyed it! His grace is sufficient for our physical weaknesses. 🙂

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  7. You have so beautifully stated this. Each person has their own struggles but thanks be to God we do not struggle alone. We have those who struggle with similar issues and Jesus to walk with us always…even on the days we are prone to forget He is there.
    I love your song choice too! For King and Country is one of my favorite bands ☺

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    1. Amen, Rachel! Glad you liked the post and the song, too. 🙂

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  8. LIly, I am glad to be learning more about you. You and Jerry would see eye-to-eye. 🙂 Blessings. Did you get my email?

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    1. Thank you, Fran! I just replied to it. After a busy few days, I am spending this morning playing catch-up. 🙂

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      1. Thank you. I know what that is like.

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  9. You are most definitely “counting it all joy” as we are told to do in James 1. Seeing Jesus in our circumstances changes everything!

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  10. Beautiful. I admire your positivity and you’re sincerely an inspiration. ❤

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    1. Thank you, Samantha! 🙂

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  11. I love to read your perspective. Your writing has such an aura of joy and inspiration, no matter the topic, and this one certainly touched me.

    I’ve been conversing with another blogger this morning about how often people just seek attention by negative means – using whatever it is that disables them to gain pity and attention with no thought as to how to use those challenges to be a light for others or become stronger for their own sake.

    I have personally seen how God’s strength is made perfect in our weakness. I see that in you too.

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    1. Thanks so much, hun. I definitely understand what you mean–I hate how self-pitying some people with my condition are. I try not to judge their emotions because maybe I’m lucky to not be depressed…but sometimes I think that their life would improve if they took a break from the “woe-is-me” to appreciate certain things, like the family members who dedicate their lives to helping them. Then there’s the ones like me who look on the bright side and inspire others. It’s so much better to choose joy!
      And maybe that choice is easier for me because, as you say, I’ve learned that God’s strength is made perfect in weakness. 🙂

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  12. Ordinarily I’d just contact you directly instead of commenting on your blog, but I couldn’t find an means to email you on your site. Anyway… I hope you and yours are staying safe in that hurricane situation. *hugs*

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    1. Thank you, hun! 🙂 We are about 4 hours inland, so we’re not in too much danger, but we are still expecting fast winds and lots of rain! My dad and brother went to the beach to board up our place there, so I hope the coast won’t get obliterated!

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  13. I’m always inspired when I visit your blog! Thank you!

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  14. Amen-Amein Sister in Christ-Messiah Jesus-Yeshua Lily!! ❤

    Love ❤ Always and Shalom, YSIC \o/

    Kristi Ann

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  15. Love those heavenly silver linings!! Thank you, Lily.

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    1. Me too, Melissa! Thank you! (please correct me if I remembered your name wrong, I only saw it once in one of Shae’s posts)

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      1. That’s okay – it’s Meredith. 😊

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  16. I admire your strength! We can only find such in Christ 🙂. #MoreGrace

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    1. Thanks, Wisdom! So true. ❤️

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